WTF Friday – 10/24/14

By popular demand, here is my first iteration of a new regular feature called WTF Friday.

Last night, we (my husband and I) were helping our son with his homework. We got to the math page, and it had a symbol like this: FunnyMathSymbol

It said to find this and then find the sum (now I drew this symbol from memory, so it may not be exactly correct.) I looked at it and said, “What the fuck is this shit?!” After looking over his math paper, and finding nothing that explained the symbol, and after asking my child what it meant and not getting anything beyond, “I don’t know…” I wrote a little note to the teacher.

“Dear Teacher:
If you want us to be able to help our child with his math homework, could you please AT LEAST explain what these ridiculous symbols mean? They aren’t even a part of College Algebra! Thanks!”

Later on, my husband was helping our child with some other math problems, and he was trying to remember something he calls la preuve par neuf, or proof by nines. I’ve never heard of this, but apparently, it’s a handy-dandy little way his dad taught him to come to an answer for certain multiplication problems. He showed me this video:

That’s my first WHAT THE FUUUUUUUUUCK?! I should also note, here, that I suck at math.

Anyway, I started looking it up, and the closest thing I could find is this video from Khan Academy:

I’m still scratching my head…

The other what the fuck I had was that while my husband was watching that first video, he made the remark, “That guy’s from Paris.” Huh? So I asked him how he knows. He said his voice sounds funny, and apparently, to the Swiss, Parisians have funny-sounding voices. It’s not so much an accent. The only Francophones with notable accents are Québécois French, according to my husband. Also, it should be noted that no European Francophone likes the Canadian French!

So, I posted on my Facebook, asking all of his Swiss friends if they could help explain it, because it seems to be something that is taught in Europe. I’ve never heard of it, and I never learned it here in the States. They were just as clueless as I am!

What?!


Last night, after the kiddo had gone to bed, I was piddling around on Facebook, and a notification popped up that someone had applied to the “closed” Facebook group I’m an admin of. I clicked over to check them out, because we vet everyone who enters to keep the trolls and spammers at bay, and the woman’s name was, I kid you not, Jane Dough!

AHAHAHAH! That’s a funny one there, but we don’t knead you! WTF?! Not only that, but she was dressed very oddly in her profile photo, almost like it was staged and satirical. I couldn’t help but make the o.O eyes at my screen when I saw it.


Have you seen this story? A woman got stabbed to death at a swap meet here in Southern California over a parking spot. A parking spot?! Seriously? First off, I wouldn’t ever get out of my vehicle for anyone, I don’t care who they think they are, and secondly, a parking spot is such a stupid thing to get killed or kill someone over! WTF?

However, that does bring up a hilarious video I saw a couple of weeks ago. This lady in China knows how to do it right!

 

Are You Judgmental?

I think the most important trait a person has to have in order to remain my friend is the ability to not be judgmental. I’ve had a lot of friends through the years who have fallen by the wayside for one reason or another, but I think it can all be summed up neatly as, “I can’t take your judgmental personality any longer, sweetheart!”

Most of my childhood friends I no longer associate with. Considering we grew up in an extreme Right Wing Fundamentalist cult, being judgmental was something that was a necessity in life. However, as an adult, I no longer tolerate that. I’ve had arguments and fights with them at various times because they fell back into that mindset of judging people without giving thought to their circumstances, and it irks the living hell out of me. The fastest way to get under my skin is to make a bigoted statement regarding a person or group of people who relies heavily on your religious teachings or upbringing.

I’ve calmed down a little and learned how to voice my displeasure and concerns privately, but I’m not scared to call people out on their shit publicly if they feel so inclined as to ignore me. I cannot stand seeing people openly voice hate for others when they should be showing them grace and compassion. Just because you were raised with a certain set of “values” and “standards” does not mean you aren’t capable of changing as an adult and learning from your mistakes. To treat people as lesser beings because of who they are or their set of unique circumstances is to show you have no independent thought and merely parrot what you are told to say.

I was friends with a girl who grew up well off, but through a set of circumstances of her own choosing, was having a difficult time with her life. I didn’t judge her. Who am I to do so? But, she would always talk shit about people like me in front of me and even tried using generalizations to lump me into a larger group of people she thought she was better than. I got tired of it. She really wasn’t in any better position than I was, but yet she had her rose-colored glasses on and thought she had it peachy and what she was judging others for doing didn’t apply to her because she was entitled to it. I eventually told her where to shove her opinions.

Another woman thought that she could tell me how to act at all times on my own social media profiles. She didn’t approve of me liking certain people or things that were said, and even went so far as to tell me, on one occasion, that I wasn’t allowed to hit the like button on comments on a particular thread because it creeped her out. I tried to be very mature about the whole situation, but after a while I got tired of her constant harassment and removed her from my friends lists. I don’t have time to wonder if people are going to approve of every single action I take online.

A childhood friend of mine and I had a falling out because she still seems to believe everything she was spoon fed as a child. She will parrot it back constantly, and when I debunk it with proof from such places as Snopes, she gets righteously indignant. One of my hugest pet peeves is the “Welfare Queen” mantra that gets thrown around constantly by the Right in this country, and every time I see a friend fall back on a “Welfare Queen” argument, I feel like screaming and throwing my electronics against the wall. I have no time for people who want to blame those who do not have it as good as they do for somehow causing their circumstances.

My mother and I have had several arguments because she is so quick to judge others, and when I try to point out the reasons why they may be that way or that may have led to their situation becoming the way it is, she falls back on her religion to spout how her god will rain holy terror down on their heads for it. This makes me want to pull my hair out!

So, for me, a good “friendship litmus test” question would be, “Can you avoid being judgmental and just accept people for who they are?”

I’ve also gained many new friends by applying this simple test to people, and these friends are ten times better than the ones I lost, because I know that no matter what I go through or what choices I make in life, they will be there to lend me an ear or shoulder to cry on and a hand to help me pick myself back up again. Judgmental friends don’t do that. They’ll look you in your face and say, “Tough shit! That was your own stupid choice and you have to deal with the consequences on your own!” Who wants friends like that?

Friendship

This post is in response to the Daily Prompt.